I am happy to report that the discipline going on over here has made big strides. Every time PB acts out, I carry him over to a very lonely corner of the room and lay him on his back and walk away. I remain completely emotionless the entire time ( if I am talking to someone, I continue my conversation as though I am not carrying a 35lb monster across the room). I do tell him why he is going there and that he can not get up until he cuts it out.
It takes him about 20 seconds to re-join the group. He will even smile and act all sweet like nothing ever happened!
This weekend he tested me in public ( Lord HELP me) at a consignment sale.. early in the morning... on a day that I FORGOT to put on deodorant... so all that screaming in the floor in public had me sweating profusely. Most mommas understood. One said " Good for you! It took me till my 4th kid to get that comfortable " but there were those ever hopeful pregnant girls with all sorts of judgment in their heads, and that is OK because no doubt that will revisit that moment in about 1.5 years when their kid is live and in person. But after all that showing out I took him to TJMAXX just to make a point that he will not dictate our schedule by showing out. He was a complete doll in there.
I had not ever realized how much I danced around like a circus monkey trying to avoid his meltdowns! It is the most freeing feeling to not try and avoid them, but rather anticipate and handle them with confidence. I was always carrying food, drink, toys, iPad to distract him incase he had a meltdown while we were out, and now, I use none of those things and it feels freakin fabulous!
If he is being a good and sweet boy THEN I allow him to watch shows.
Now I wrote all of that a few weeks ago, and am revisiting this post to EDIT. I might have won the battle, but the war is STILL ON.
Peebs is in full blown terrible two's. I started reading John Rosemonds books lately to help and navigate this area.
He has a FIERCE temper ( no idea where he got that from) and has taken to hitting, kicking, scratching, etc when he is angry ..oh and throwing! He will try to throw something important, like my computer, when he is mad at me.
He has also changed his mind about so many things like, being friendly in public, or taking baths.. he refuses to SIT in the bathtub now.
I am EXHAUSTED from trying to discipline and not backing down all day. His will is made of IRON. He can be the sweetest sweetie and the meanest devil all in a span of 30 seconds.
He has moved on from the tantrums, well not entirely, let's just say he spaces them out better. Now... I must get him to do what I say, and not go crazy every time we have to do something that isn't on his agenda , like cutting his fingernails.
Here is the book I am reading, and I highly recommend it. It is a Christian parenting book, from a guy who does not believe in parenting books. HA kinda ironic.
It is available in hard back and kindle edition if you are interested!