It all went really well. Right when she got here he clapped and got down and started moon walking for her. She thought that was hilarious.
She asked a lot of questions about his lack of shyness, which scared me some. She asked how he differentiates his behavior with us (parents) as opposed to say friends, family or strangers. That was kind of hard to answer. The only thing that came to mind is he shows out for other people, but not for us.
She played some games with him, like putting tape on the floor and asking him to walk on it in a straight line.
She asked him to look for objects in a picture.
She asked him to play cup stacking and she would hide things under the cup and move it to see if he followed the object.
She would give him commands and see if he followed them etc .
She asked me lots of questions about how he does this or that.
So in the end, she basically said that she thought he was 2 yrs old when she made the appointment. The doctors office told her his birthday was Feb 28, 2010 ( not July 28). When I told her that he was 1.5 then she more or less said she didn't need to come at all because he is not showing any abnormal signs for 18 months. She said some kids can do more and some less but that he was pretty average with his speech and communication.
She said if by 2 yrs old we were in the same place then to call her but she expects him to change alot between now and then. She showed me his scores ( pictured above) and said that he passed all screening areas except "adaptive behavior" and the reason he did not pass that was because:
he kicks his shoes off instead of undoing the velcro,
and that he does not eat with a utensil.
I told her that we rarely give him the chance because it is so messy and she said we need to start letting him try. She also said I need to start making him ask for things rather than catering to him. She said he def knows what is going on and that he has very high cognitive and social developments.
Translation: he is working his momma! He knows he can get what he wants by grunting etc so why should he do anything different?
I have to train myself to make him ask and communicate for things instead of anticipating his needs. Giving in is much easier and I am guilty of that!
This is more or less what I thought about his development all along, but it was good to hear my motherly instincts validated.
I asked her if my lack of teaching and drilling him was responsible for his lack of talking and she said no. Which was a relief.
We have never really discussed this on the blog I guess, but part of my parenting style is that I am against drilling small children or pressuring them into learning too much too fast. I feel like their childhood is so brief, and I want it to be fun and carefree, until school age comes around. I could go on and on about why I feel this way and give you some data, but I will just leave it at that and say no judgment to anyone who does it differently, that is just my own personal style.
Once this speech thing came around, I was concerned that my parenting style had effected his development but she assures me that it is not that, but more of a personality issue of my boy, where he is very relaxed and laid back about basically everything (but food).
So all is good! It was VERY interesting and I am glad we did it and I am relieved to know that he is indeed fine and normal and that I am not a terrible mother after all!