Monday, September 19, 2011

Here's What I Have to Say About That....





I gotta tell y'all.... lately some things have been getting on my nerves.. or some people rather... and so today we are just gonna go there.. Shall we?


- What the H is with women who like to break down and insult other women? I mean that as bloggers and as moms. It is SO irritating to me. I am fully aware that most people parent and blog and do a lot of things differently and I actually enjoy it. I find it stimulating and interesting. But some women..... they use it as an excuse to launch a witch hunt. I have seen it a lot lately on twitter, facebook and in blogs and I am so over it. Being mean on the internet is so cowardly you know?
and I am having to take my own advice and not say anything about the Rudy Judi's but It is hard not to defend my internet friends against maliciousness.


- Another thing that blows me away is, how at this age in life with marriage and kids how anyone can actually make the time to say " but that was my idea, or I thought of that 1st ... or you copied me/plagiarized my blog".... seriously? WHO CARES.  There is very little that is actually an original idea of any kind. There are WAY too many people in this world.. so thinking that you are the only person who can like something or do something is pretty delusional.  Once I did some artwork with a chevron pattern on it and someone emailed me threatening to sue me because "that was their idea" HA for reals? I'm pretty sure the Indians own the patent on Chevron patterns.. next in line would be Missoni!
In other words, whining all over twitter about the fact that people LIKE your free printable or re-pinned your idea? Yeah that gets a big UNFOLLOW.


- AND.... while I am on my soap box let me tell you that I don't like for anyone to try and pressure bloggers to put it all out there. I think it is a personal choice to decide when and what you blog about. Personally, I am not a person to hide anything, BUT my blog is not just about me! It reflects on my family and friends and one day I am sure my SON will read it. 
    Do I want him to read about how one day his daddy and I battled it out because he likes all lights off and I turn every light ON in this house? No... I don't. Also I have the blessing and curse of a terrible memory and can generally forget all about something in 3 days time. Blogging is way for me to remember things that I WANT to remember.. ya know? Sometimes, like right now, it is a great way to vent.
Saying all that to say that is how I feel, but I certainly don't mind reading posts of all kinds, just don't like when people try to box you in as "trying to appear perfect" for not putting it all out there.




WHEW , alright I am done whining now. Thanks for listening !! HA


29 comments:

Susannah said...

You Know I agree! So annoying and they need to check themselves right quick!

Karen said...

I will say the cattiness, bragging, mean comments, ect…. from people in blogland, twitter are worst than anything I ever witnessed in being a sorority. Take it easy ladies- show each other some kindness.

grizaham said...

Twitter / FB / Blogs have made people insane.. Present company not included..

I read somewhere that some woman said that the iLatch "scared her."
Seriously, that woman's children are doomed.

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Amber said...

There is definitely a lot of cattiness/pettiness lately in the bloggy/twitter world. Some days it's almost enough to make me rethink being a part of it because, I'll be honest, high school and sorority life had less drama! :)

Samantha said...

AMEN and AMEN. I too was a sorority girl in college and it was far less dramatic than the blog/twitter world is lately. It makes me want to walk away and that makes me sad because I LOVE blogging.

And again I say, AMEN.

Samantha said...

P.S. My complaint of the The Twitter and blog world recently is how if you're not a momma, you basically don't exist. Well, what happened to the days before all these women were mommas, they were just like me who had no experience with babies except maybe exposure to little brothers and sisters like I had? And even non-kid-related things, I still seem to not exist b/c I'm not a mom. SUCH CRAP.

Okay I'm done now.

Laura said...

Never saw your blog or your name anywhere before...

But I believe we have some of the same "friends"...because you stole the words right out of this girl's mouth.

New follower. Thanks for speaking your mind!

Kodi said...

What Laura said. You're my new favorite blogger. :)

melissa said...

Amen friend! I personally am so thankful for sweet bloggers like you who don't tear other people down but instead offer help, advice, suggestions, etc. You have been so helpful to me while I was pregnant and as a new mom and I'm glad to know you! xoxo

Perfectly Imperfect said...

this is why i pink puffy heart you.

Gina said...

With all due respect, I feel like you are a bit hypocritical in this post. In the first paragraph, you preach for kindness and tolerance, and in the second, you completely negate your original point. To me, that second paragraph is neither kind nor tolerant. And I'd be willing to bet that if you put a lot of time and effort into creating something, you'd hope to receive credit where credit is due....if for no other reason than to allow people to USE the free printable, which they can't do without the proper source. Be careful of your words...they come off as pretty hateful. I'd hate for someone to be hurt by them.

LG said...

Gina, no hate intended and this was not directed to one particular person, but LOTS of people and situations, like that lady who left you the mean comment last week! I did not understand why she did that.
but you are right , it is a little hypocrytical in the ways that you mentioned. Sorry if I offended you, I was just venting about situations that had offended me.
( I created a free printable last week that has been pinned all over the place)
and I certainly did not write that with intent to hurt anyone!

Chibi said...

I have to say I'm with Gina - the intention of this post seems to be to attack a few people without naming names. Clearly you're entitled to your opinion, but opinions can always be stated in a diplomatic fashion that doesn't look like any specific person is being targeted.

the tichenor family said...

This is exactly what's on my heart... why does everyone jump to the conclusion that they are being targeted, copied, bullied, or attacked? Why can't grown women and mothers just play nice like we are telling our children to do all day long?! Thanks for putting this out there.

brown eyed girl said...

Hot damn, peeps. Are there not bigger problems in the world than who created a printable to-do list first?

Amen, Laura. I say to delete/unfollow/block the people that irritate you!

LG said...

Yes, I can tell you I am shocked at all the craziness this stirred up. I can honestly say it was about 15 things.. not just one person or thing and was not mean to attack anyone.
But I also want to point out that the reason I blogged about it and felt OK in doing so, was because the situations and things I am mentioning were from people who WERE mean publicly to others or were publicly belittling people. with links and names mentioned etc. I thought the way i wrote it was OK, but forgive me if I have offended you accidentally.
I can safely say that no one I was talking about reads my blog.

Erica said...

I do have to chime in and say that I'm surprised by this post Laura. I agree with the whole "let's not be mean to each other" and whatnot, but the printable thing? That surprised me from you. I couldn't help but feel that was completely patronizing of one person, who is (was?) a mutual friend.

I always enjoy your comments on my blog and chatting on Twitter, and to be very honest I wouldn't have expected meanness like that from you. I hope I interpreted it wrong, but it definitely came off that way to me (and some others as well). I have a feeling you really hurt some feelings with this. And some of the commenters? I think you've all done the same. :/

Jess said...

See, there's this thing called laws. Rules of copyright. When a photographer puts their work out there, and someone uses a copy of their photo without citing the original, it's called stealing. When someone copies a blog post or a poem or an essay, it's called plagarism.

There are laws regarding intellectual property, whether it's the written word, an idea, or a printable. A printable someone spent a lot of time, effort and energy on, and then said "hey, this is cute, maybe the internet might like it".

How about I spend the next few weeks working on something called the Latchey. See, it's this cool idea where you can actually attach your iPad to the back of a car seat. Cool, huh? Oh wait. You mean, someone already did it? Weird. Well, there's no such thing as an original idea anyway, really, so I'll just make mine different colors, and use hooks rather than fabric, and then it's totally not the same thing.

Except it is the same thing. It is, because when someone puts their heart into something, whether it's a work of art, a photograph, and invention, or a PRINTABLE, it's still theirs. And I'm pretty sure that if you saw someone out there steal your idea, you'd not hesitate for a second to say something to them. I'm pretty sure, based on my one visit to your blog and twitter stream today, that you'd be RAILING against the AUDACITY of the person who stole from you.

But because you've deemed a printable (which has made the rounds of the internet at a lightning fast pace so obviously a LOT of people liked it) to be of little value, you've completely undermined the feelings of the creator. I'd like to know who gets to decide the order of importance of things. Who decides which feelings of upset, frustration, hurt with things on the internet are valid, and which ones aren't?

I've had my work stolen. I've had my words taken from my site and used one someone else's. I've had my photographs stolen. I see photos of my daughter sometimes on sites I've never given permission to use the photos. I know how it feels, and it feels awful. I think that if someone stole your work you'd feel just as awful as the creator of the printable.

And don't even try to tell me this post wasn't about it. Because I looked at your twitter feed. I saw the tweet that directly referenced the printable, and then all the responses to you about it, and then your responses to them saying "well, then you'll really like my post today". We ALL know who you were talking about.

Are the bigger problems in the world than a printable? Yeah. But you know what? There's a whole hell of a lot more productive things that we could all be doing with our time rather than be on twitter and blogging, so unless you've all got your asses in homeless shelters in between your tweets, or are spending your vacations in Nigeria rather than at the beach, then don't pull that self-righteous "we all have better things to do" card. That's a total cop out.

Cheryl E. said...

Perfectly said. It is sad to see other people beat up on others via blogs and twitter. Get real and get a life. It is so sad.

Melinda and Jonathan said...

Holy drama, Batman. I have no idea who you're talking about or anything about the printable that is referenced in the comments following this post, so I certainly don't have a dog in the fight. BUT... I like reading your blog, and I like your attitude. SO... Haters go on and hate! That's my two cents. HAHA! =)

AndreaLeigh said...

i had my own twitter drama recently. it was brutal. first time i've truly been attacked.

i agree about people getting upset about their ideas being "stolen." get over yourself. everything is copied these days. and I think I know who you are talking about with the complaining their stuff got pinned. be flattered!

twitter has become so cliquey lately. sometimes I want to quit.

Kristen said...

LG I love reading your blog and that is what it is: YOUR BLOG. You mentioned that this is your diary. That means that you choose to let us read it and we can choose TO read it. There are no 'rules' to blog-land. LG can write what she wants and, like my momma always said: if you cant say anything nice dont say it at all.
I am not sure what the whole printable thing is about and I have no CLUE how to TWEET; I think what Jess failed to mention in her rant is that there is a difference between plagarism and having the same idea. That is called: INTENT. Nothing is really an original idea these days. New ideas come from inspiration from old ones and then it builds, and builds and builds. I'm sure the guy that invented paper wasnt too pissed with the guy that invented the book; if you get my drift.
I think that if you need to express yourself on the matter in a 'debatable' way - try sending LG an email and not leaving a rude comment on her blog. She can say what she wants - its her blog. When you try defending yourself in her comment section all it does is piss off her devoted followers and it makes you look like a spiteful witch. Which may not have been your intention - but to someone who doesnt know what the heckle (yes, i used heckle. I am borrowing that LG if you dont mind) you are talking about - you do sound quite nasty.

Anonymous said...

Every single one of you needs to get a life! PATHETIC!!!! We are all laughing at you at work!

Susannah said...

Well I'm pretty sure Miss Anonymous needs to come out from behind that comment with a NAME and not hide while telling others to "get a life." How about you "get a name" and get to "work," hmmmm?

Cory Holder said...

LG you have your right to your opinion and expressing it on YOUR blog/twitter. Some of these comments seem pretty harsh indeed. Ladies, ladies, ladies....let's find better things to do.

And the Latchy comment...watch it girlfriend...she has put A LOT of work, heart and soul into that product. Which has a patent...two totally different things.

grizaham said...

girls fighting = future besties.

ml said...

Laura, I agree with you whole-heartedly. Also, I don't know anyone who is more considerate of other people's work and giving credit where credit is due that you do. To the commenters: This post was about mothers dragging each other down and insulting each other, and people seem to be intent on doing that in the comments as well. AND it's EASY to post as "anonymous" and be rude. It's a lot harder for someone like Laura to put her opinions out there NOT under an "anonymous" identity.

Julie Bray said...

Dang girl, you stirred up some emotions! LOVE IT!!!

Get some hearts pounding, get some opinions out there, punching, pulling hair, yikes!

Your blog, your opinions, your right!

I too don't completely understand the whole printables thing, but mainly because I don't know how someone expects to copy right something they post all over the internet. Do they understand how to copy right and defend their art.....? There is a way, right? Or maybe not, I don't know. And if not, why put it out there knowing someone can steal it if they have a problem with that.....?
Please excuse my apparent ignorance on that matter... (:

Where do those anonymous people work that they are reading your blog and laughing? Some blog-reading job???

Anonymous said...

If you don't want your pics, words, etc stolen. Then don't put it on the internet..plain & simple! Woman are so damn catty! Grow up people!

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