Sunday, March 27, 2011

Still Fighting the Sleep Demons..


Ya'll wanna know something CRAZY? I am still getting up with my little peeble pants every night 3-5 times a night. He is almost 8 months old. WHAT have I done to myself? All of my friends that tried to tell me to cry it out, are probably wagging their fingers right now, and rightfully so! I never thought they were wrong, I just knew I was weak.  In my heart of hearts, I just thought eventually, when he got to moving around, he would be SO tired he would just need that sleep.
BUT, as time goes by, I am beginning to think that won't happen. For the 1st time I have encountered another mom who did this same thing I have done, and she told me that it does not ever resolve itself.. it just gets worse as they age. OH NO! Worse?! and CB reminded me that soon he will be able to call and scream MAMMA from his crib !! Yikers!

So ... I am really trying to make myself come up with a plan and follow it, which is super hard for me because I am flaky! for realz. I just can not STAND making plans in advance and sticking to routines and all of that. I also can not stand to hear him cry! I would even put him in the bed with us at this point, but he does not sleep well in bed with us, plus that is special time for my dog children when they can have our undivided attention.
So... I am starting tonight since bubs does not have to work tomorrow and I am going to go in the room when he cries, and only pat him , not pick him up and NOT boob him to sleep. I shall increase the interval between times I go in each time and hopefully he will get tired of this game and just start sleeping through the night, and if he loves his momma, he will learn this all very fast before his overnight adventure with Bebe and PawPaw!!

I will keep ya'll posted! But for all you other mommas who have not gotten to this stage, I hope you learn from my mistakes. Practice your cry it out before they get this old! I think 4 months is a good age.

****UPDATE****
We have done CIO 2 nights in a row now, in stages. I let him cry when I initially put him to bed and if he wakes up before midnight I let him CIO. After Midnight I will go in and snuggle him then in a few days I will not go in there unless its after 2 am etc till he sleeps through the night. Night 1 he made some CRAZY dragon calling noises but went to bed in about 20 minutes. He did not wake up again until 2:30 am and only twice did I have to go in there. ( normally anywhere from 3-5 times)
Night 2, he really showed out when I was putting him to bed and it took about 20 minutes for him to go to sleep. He only woke up once, at 4:30 am and I went in there. I was SO proud of him for only waking up once!! So he may be learning faster than anticipated.

Also should say that he naps MUCH better on these days than he did previously! Hope it continues to go this well!

14 comments:

Susannah said...

Yay! So proud! It's rough, but you can do it!

grizaham said...

Laura, know this. Whatever YOU do, is the right thing.
You are a great mom. Fenn is a great kid.

Thanks!
E

The Macons said...

You got this lady! Remember that YOU are the mom and Fenn is the BABY!! YOu have to train him, don't let him train you (more)!! LOVE you all!

Mrs. Holder said...

You can do it! Stay with your plan and he will get the picture. Fenners will sleep through the night soon...I feel it!

Marion said...

It's not fun or easy, but not much has been easy since these babies came along! It will work, and faster than you think. But, if he is anything like C, he will try to trick you with a few wake ups after a week or so. I gave in since it was only 1 time but of course that turned back into 10! then had to repeat then vicious cycle! Good luck! Hope you are stronger than me! Sweet dreams!

Beach Bum & Baby said...

Oh hun, I had no clue you were still dealing with this. I don't have any advice except I did recently hear from a mom that her baby was waking up hungry at night so her pediatrician suggested that instead of bm or formula to give the baby some water - he said that it was just his blood sugar spiking and that the water would satisfy him for the time and even out his blood sugar? Something like that. Don't take my word for it - but I thought it was an interesting theory.
You are such a great Mama!!! Don't get down about this - I know you are tired - you really need some good sleep sweetie!! :) I bet it'll just be a few days and you will both be on a much better schedule!! xoxo

Cary said...

Isn't it a shame that they don't come with a "how to" manual! Guess then we would all be the Stepford families!! You are doing a great job with Fenn so don't worry! And the crying may hurt you a lot more than it hurts him! Hang in!!

Tiny Ocean said...

i know exactly what it feels like to get ZERO sleep....its hard to be a good mama when you're sleep deprived. peepers sounds like he's catching on and i kind of like the idea about water in the bottle. i too just cannot take my babes crying. it is heartbreaking and i usually tailspin into a one big panic attack. if i ever have to do it, my hubs will have to be the one in charge of that. please keep us posted on his progress...i just know he will be sleeping through the night soon.

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Melissa {TheScarletCardinal} said...

wow, this sounds intense. I hope it gets better for you! Good luck!

Caroline said...

You can do it. When you start to give in think about the goal and that a lot of things wanted are never easy to achieve. Again, you CAN do it!

Holly said...

I FEEL for you! I didn't know our kids were so close in age. Aubrey will be 8 months on April 5th, and she, too, isn't sleeping thru the night. I have 2 other children, and CIO did not work for them, but that's not to say it won't work for her, I just haven't had the heart to try it again. You may have given me the courage! Good Luck, but don't feel bad if you can't stand it!! haha

Perfectly Imperfect said...

First; you are my hero. My child sleeps through the night and I'm tired. Hats off to you. You are CLEARLY an amazing Mother. Don't beat yourself up about this. We had to do the CIO with BG and it almost killed me, BUT it works. Stick to your guns Mama. You'll have that baby sleeping 12 hours straight in no time :)

The Skippers said...

I know it's hard. I wish I had done it with Lucy earlier. We were in the same boat. 20 minutes is not bad. I had to let her cry for a couple hours the first night. It was so much better after that. And, her naps were better after that. It will make such a difference. So hard though!

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