You guys may or may not be familiar with the book BabyWise which is a book on parenting philosophy for newborns and helps you learn to set schedules so that parents and baby know more of what to expect, get better sleep and baby is secure from consistency. It is pretty controversial I would say, based on the comments I got on facebook once when I said I was reading it.
So if you are not a fan of babywise, feel free to skip this post , judge me and talk about me behind my back.
Probably our biggest accomplishment this weekend, was starting BabyWise schedule. I read this book when I was pregnant and thought it was so awesome. Little did I know, how hard it would be to implement the practice of it once you have the sweet snuggly babe at home, mostly b.c I just wanted to be near him, to make sure he was ok.
Well after a few emotional breakdowns from lack of sleep, I decided to let him sleep in his crib, in his own room for the night. He must have been one really tired little dude b.c he took to that crib like a champ! We both got not only longer spans of sleep, but QUALITY sleep. I didn't think of it before but he was in his bassinet in the living room with the TV on 24/7 and I think that was keeping him from sleeping well.
So starting our babywise schedule was a lot like training my dog children, as in the children are never the problem , its ME! ha I am too soft hearted I think and give in too easy. Sometimes PB would wake up after 45 mins and cry out and I would immediately pick him up and check for diaper change or hunger etc. Well it turns out sometimes babies just cry out in their sleep, and then go right back to sleep not actually needing anything ! So now that I know that, I watch him on the video monitor and instead of disturbing him during his sleep, I do nothing and he goes right back to sleep. What a neat trick!
I asked Erik to read the book and he read half of it that first night. I knew that if he were on board things would be easier b.c he is a VERY good rule follower, where as my free spirit struggles with such regulations. I was right. He read and provided much needed support and planning.
I do feel routine gives security to children and as much as I have read and researched about sleep through out my Psych degree, I know what an important part of growth and development it is for children.
So we went from demand feeding and short naps to sleeping 2, 3 and 4 hours at a time, and full feedings every few hours. It is also comforting for me to know somewhat, what to expect so I can plan for outings of if I need to pump I can predict when to do that without him waking up and needing me etc. It has brought me MUCH peace. and some VERY much needed SLEEP.
So for us this has been a total success, made easier by the fact that we didn't have to cry it out. PB has his daddy's disposition and is rather passive, Thank GOD!